Trudi Jane Wyatt, MA, RP, CCC
Registered Psychotherapist

Psychotherapy over the telephone for individual male and female adults in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

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416-901-0994 No text; if emergency 911; see ‘Resources’.

By appointment only. Evening/Weekend availability in July.

You might enjoy reading these quotes*:

He came steadily on, straight through the town without slakening pace, until he reached the fork a half-mile below our place. One branch turned left, across the River Ford, and onto Luke Fletcher’s big spread; the other, bore ahead along the right bank, where we homesteaders had pegged our claims in a row up the valley. He hesitated briefly, studying the choice, and moved again steadily, on our side.” Shane, by Jack Schaefer (1920)

“It was said that the last person to see him, on the spring morning of his disappearance, was an old woman who sold flowers on a Chicago street corner by the Mulligan Bank. She related that he stopped and bought a bunch of the year’s first bluebells. His face was the happiest face she had ever seen; he had the look of a youth starting out into a great, unobstructed vision of life lying open before him; the marks of pain and tension, the sediment of years upon a human face, had been wiped off, and what remained was only joyous eagerness and peace. He picked up the flowers as if on a sudden impulse, and he winked at the old woman, as if he had some shining joke to share with her. He said, ‘Do you know how much I’ve always loved it—being alive?’ She stared at him, bewildered, and he walked away, tossing the flowers like a ball in his hand—a broad, straight figure in a sedate, expensive, businessman’s overcoat, going off into the distance against the straight cliffs of office buildings with the spring sun sparkling on their windows.” (from the novel Atlas Shrugged, on the disappearance of character Midas Mulligan)

“And it is rare, to see two trajectories meet—the abstract knowledge about the power of cultural conditioning, and the gut realization of what that conditioning has meant in one’s own life.“ (Panning for Gold, Mary Sykes Wylie)

“you cannot learn to know a man until you have eaten a peck of salt with him” (The Ethics of Aristotle, Book Eight)

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” (Maya Angelou)

“Nature requires that we resolve all these matters by measuring and reasoning whether the ultimate result is suitable or unsuitable to bringing about a happy life; for at times we may determine that what appears to be good is in fact an evil, and at other times we may determine that what appears to be evil is in fact a good.” (Epicurus: Letter to Menoeceus. Epicurus was a Greek philosopher who lived from 341 to 270bc.)

“Nature provides that life is made pleasant by sober contemplation, and by close examination of the reasons for all decisions we make as to what we choose and what we avoid. It is by these means that we put to flight the vain opinions from which arise the greater part of the confusion that troubles the soul.” (ibid)

“‘How does one become a butterfly?’ she asked pensively. ‘You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.'” (Trina Paulus)

“If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

(Rudyard Kipling’s poem ‘If’ from https://www.poetryfoundation.org/poems/46473/if—) (I interpret this to be inclusive of all people not just “Man” and “son,” it was just the common language of the time)

“We need to do better in terms of educating people in the virtues. We’ve lost that degree of moral language in our culture — or, we’re losing it — and we do that at our peril.” (The Hon. Peter D. Lauwers of the Ontario Court of Appeal in “Reflections on Charter Values” Q&A)

“Remember, if you ever need a helping hand, it’s at the end of your arm.” (Audrey Hepburn, ht Michael Hurd, LCSW)

“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” (Steve Jobs, 2005, Stanford Commencement Address)

“Now sometimes you’re about to do something and you don’t know whether it’s right or wrong… But — and I think this is a universal experience — people know, sometimes, that what they’re saying isn’t true, and people know, sometimes, that what they’re doing is wrong. And they state the untruth and they do what’s wrong anyways. And one of the things you can do is, stop doing that… “ (Psychologist Jordan Peterson, 19Oct2017)

“All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one’s heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes. So, he whispered to the sleeping boy. I have you.” (Cormac McCarthy, The Road)

“Philosophy is not just a game… It’s the most vital use of our minds for getting our bearings in life.” (Morris, 1999)

“He cited an episode of The Simpsons in which Homer has a crayon removed from his brain, becomes smart, then gets depressed by the complexity of the world and asks that the crayon be put back in” (metronews 04 Nov 2014 quoting philosophy professor Mark Kingwell)

“If you put a good brain in a brain-unfriendly environment, it should not surprise you to see that brain get sad (a state that will eventually be labeled ‘chronic depression’)” (Why Smart People Hurt by Eric Maisel)

“Those things—they’re not even desires—they’re things people do to escape from desires—because it’s such a big responsibility, really to want something.” (The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand)

“‘If a peasant woman brings you a basket that she wants ornamented, do it as beautifully as you can, for in its modest way it is as important as a fresco on a palace wall.'” Ghirlandaio to Michelangelo in The Agony and the Ecstasy by Irving Stone.

“Emotions–fear, anger, love–are as necessary for the organism’s survival as nerve impulses, immune cells or hormonal activity… Emotions, and the physical cells and tissues that make them possible, evolved as part and parcel of the apparatus of survival… It is not that the organs of emotion interact with the PNI [psycho-neuro-immune] system–they form an essential part of this system.” (Dr. Gabor Mate, When the Body Says No)

“Regardless of whether or not the drugs work, to call pessimism the symptom of an illness and then to turn our discontents over to the medical industry is to surrender perhaps the most important portion of our autonomy: the ability to look around and say, as Job might have said, ‘This is outrageous. Something must be done.'” (Gary Greenberg in Manufacturing Depression: The Secret History of a Modern Disease)

“Emotions are tools. Learn to appreciate what is in your emotional toolbox. Learn how to use these tools more effectively and what works best in particular situations.” (Todd Kashdan, Psychologist)

“And don’t think you can lay down the load, ever. Because you can’t. I know.” (Grandma Fontaine, Gone with the Wind, Margaret Mitchell, Ch.XXVI) (I stand against slavery; that said some of the characters demonstrate important virtues such as adaptation and industriousness)

My tables–meet it is I set it down
That one may smile, and smile, and be a villain–“
(Hamlet, in Hamlet, by Shakespeare, Act 1, Scene 5)

“‘Am I happy enough?’ has been a staple of American self-reflection since Thomas Jefferson declared ours the first country on earth dedicated to the pursuit of happiness. ‘Am I not happy enough because I am sick?’ on the other hand is a question that has just arisen in the last twenty years.” (Manufacturing Depression, by Gary Greenberg)

“So Zeus, fearing for our species, lest it should be destroyed completely, sent Hermes to bring shame and justice to men, so that there would be order in the cities, and uniting bonds of friendship. And so Hermes asked Zeus in what way he should give justice and shame to men: ‘Am I to allocate them, just as the arts have been allocated? For these have been allocated in such a way that one man who possesses the art of medicine is sufficient for many unskilled men, and likewise with other craftsmen. Now, should I place justice and shame amongst men in this way, or should I allocate them to everyone?'” [Plato’s Dialogue: Protagorus (the first “great” Sophist)]

“It is our inclination to think that the purpose of civil society is to avoid conflict. That’s not true at all! Civil society is supposed to be there to enable us to have conflict without violence.” (Queens Law Professor Bruce Pardy speaking on “Correcting Political Correctness” panel on May 2, 2019 in Toronto)

“The frailty of everything revealed at last. Old and troubling issues resolved into nothingness and night. The last instance of a thing takes the class with it. Turns out the light and is gone. Look around you. Ever is a long time. But the boy knew what he knew. That ever is no time at all.” (Cormac McCarthy, The Road)

“Thought is obviously important… You might say you don’t need to speak freely because you can think, and who’s going to get into your head. But the problem with that is… You can’t think very well, because there you are, in your little world, you know, with all your biases, and your ignorance. You’re wrong about so many things… Maybe you can trot out some of the things you think erroneously and ignorantly… Maybe you’ll walk away a little smarter! That’s why freedom of speech is so important because a lot of thinking especially about things that are beyond you, for whatever reason, have to take place publicly, as we stumble around towards an adequate formulation about the problems that beset us.” (Prof. Jordan Peterson, Queen’s University, The Rising Tide of Compelled Speech in Canada)

“Remember to look up at the stars, and not down at your feet.” (Stephen Hawking)

“You set yourself up on your damn crutches and you struggle up the bloody hill. That’s what you do! …Because the alternative is to descend into the abyss – that’s the alternative!” (Prof. Jordan Peterson, Queen’s University, The Rising Tide of Compelled Speech in Canada)

“The greatest part of mankind have no other reason for their opinions than that they are in fashion.” (Samuel Johnson, in Morris, 1999)

“But it’s also a hazard of reading a book by an old-fashioned psychotherapist like me, who believes that when it comes to important and complex questions, the best approach is to leave yourself in doubt for as long as possible, to live with inner conflict rather than to end it, to withstand yourself rather than to become someone different, to understand how you arrived at an important juncture rather than strike out down a road simply for the sake of getting on with life.” (Gary Greenberg in Manufacturing Depression)

“Make it thy business to know thyself, which is the most difficult lesson in the world.” (Cervantes, in Morris, 1999)

“Mindfulness techniques are extremely valuable, but equally important is threat reduction… You will also need to change your life so that you feel less threatened…” (Eric Maisel in Why Smart People [feel] Hurt)

*Note that these quotes are sourced from a variety of disciplines, and are not psychotherapy / counselling / advice.  For professional services please either contact me to discuss scheduling an appointment (if you are in Ontario), and/or contact another qualified local professional. If you need urgent support, consider calling Toronto Distress Centres at 416.408.4357. If you need immediate help, call 911 or go to your local Emergency Room. Note this post is for information only, does not imply that a professional relationship has been established with readers, and does not imply intent to provide professional services to readers. Intended audience: Current adult residents of the Canadian province of Ontario only.

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