Trudi Jane Wyatt, MA, RP, CCC
Registered Psychotherapist

Psychotherapy for individual male and female adults in Ontario, Canada.


416-901-0994 (no text) or 647-955-6079 (no text)
130 Adelaide Street West PATH Toronto
By appointment only

You might enjoy reading these quotes*:

“We need to do better in terms of educating people in the virtues. We’ve lost that degree of moral language in our culture — or, we’re losing it — and we do that at our peril.” (The Hon. Peter D. Lauwers of the Ontario Court of Appeal in “Reflections on Charter Values” Q&A)

“You set yourself up on your damn crutches and you struggle up the bloody hill. That’s what you do! …Because the alternative is to descend into the abyss – that’s the alternative!” (Prof. Jordan Peterson, Queen’s University, The Rising Tide of Compelled Speech in Canada)

“Regardless of whether or not the drugs work, to call pessimism the symptom of an illness and then to turn our discontents over to the medical industry is to surrender perhaps the most important portion of our autonomy: the ability to look around and say, as Job might have said, ‘This is outrageous. Something must be done.'” (Gary Greenberg in Manufacturing Depression: The Secret History of a Modern Disease)

“I freed a thousand slaves. I could have freed a thousand more if only they knew they were slaves.” (Harriet Tubman is often quoted, but she might not have said this)

“And it is rare, to see two trajectories meet—the abstract knowledge about the power of cultural conditioning, and the gut realization of what that conditioning has meant in one’s own life.“ (Panning for Gold, Mary Sykes Wylie)

“You may encounter many defeats, but you must not be defeated. In fact, it may be necessary to encounter the defeats, so you can know who you are, what you can rise from, how you can still come out of it.” (Maya Angelou)

“If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you,
But make allowance for their doubting too;
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don’t deal in lies,
Or being hated, don’t give way to hating,
And yet don’t look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream—and not make dreams your master;
If you can think—and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you’ve spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build ’em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breathe a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: ‘Hold on!’

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with Kings—nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you,
If all men count with you, but none too much;
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds’ worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that’s in it,
And—which is more—you’ll be a Man, my son!

(Rudyard Kipling’s poem ‘If’ from—)

“The greatest part of mankind have no other reason for their opinions than that they are in fashion.” (Samuel Johnson, in Morris, 1999)

“Don’t let the noise of others’ opinions drown out your own inner voice.” (Steve Jobs, 2005, Stanford Commencement Address)

“Now sometimes you’re about to do something and you don’t know whether it’s right or wrong… But — and I think this is a universal experience — people know, sometimes, that what they’re saying isn’t true, and people know, sometimes, that what they’re doing is wrong. And they state the untruth and they do what’s wrong anyways. And one of the things you can do is, stop doing that… “ (Psychologist Jordan Peterson, 19Oct2017)

“But it’s also a hazard of reading a book by an old-fashioned psychotherapist like me, who believes that when it comes to important and complex questions, the best approach is to leave yourself in doubt for as long as possible, to live with inner conflict rather than to end it, to withstand yourself rather than to become someone different, to understand how you arrived at an important juncture rather than strike out down a road simply for the sake of getting on with life.” (Gary Greenberg in Manufacturing Depression)

“Small changes in the diagnostic system [brought about by DSM-5] can result in tens of millions of people who were normal the day before suddenly qualifying for diagnosis… When my wife died, I felt sad, I lost interest,… In DSM-5, those symptoms — typical symptoms of everyday grief — would be called Major Depressive Disorder, after just 2 weeks.” (Dr. Allen Frances, Psychiatrist, author of Saving Normal, and chaired the task force that produced the DSM-IV)

“The frailty of everything revealed at last. Old and troubling issues resolved into nothingness and night. The last instance of a thing takes the class with it. Turns out the light and is gone. Look around you. Ever is a long time. But the boy knew what he knew. That ever is no time at all.” (Cormac McCarthy, The Road)

“Clients sometimes wonder if there are many realities… My response is always to point out that if everyone experienced a different reality then people would constantly be bumping into each other.” (Peter Raabe, PhD, in Philosophy’s Role in Counseling and Psychotherapy)

“Philosophy is not just a game… It’s the most vital use of our minds for getting our bearings in life.” (Morris, 1999)

“Thought is obviously important… You might say you don’t need to speak freely because you can think, and who’s going to get into your head. But the problem with that is… You can’t think very well, because there you are, in your little world, you know, with all your biases, and your ignorance. You’re wrong about so many things… Maybe you can trot out some of the things you think erroneously and ignorantly… Maybe you’ll walk away a little smarter! That’s why freedom of speech is so important because a lot of thinking especially about things that are beyond you, for whatever reason, have to take place publicly, as we stumble around towards an adequate formulation about the problems that beset us.” (Prof. Jordan Peterson, Queen’s University, The Rising Tide of Compelled Speech in Canada)

“Fallacy of Equivocation: Using the same term in different and contradictory ways… [for example] Scientists agree on something! [You need to ask:] What exactly do they agree on? How did they prove it?” (Alex Epstein, Author of Moral Case for Fossil Fuels)

“Imagine a company that has already spent $50 million on a project. The project is now behind schedule and the forecasts of its ultimate returns are less favorable than at the initial planning stage. An additional investment of $60 million is required to give the project a chance. An alternative proposal is to invest the same amount in a new project that currently looks likely to bring higher returns. What will the company do? All too often a company afflicted by [the sunk cost fallacy] ‘drives into the blizzard’ (quotations added) throwing good money after bad rather than accepting the humiliation of closing the account of a costly failure… where the choice is between a sure loss [the $50 million] and an unfavorable gamble [the $60 million], which is often unwisely preferred.” (Thinking Fast and Slow, by Daniel Kahneman, about cognitive illusions).

These people are not virtuous. They’re virtue signalers – it’s a difference! Being virtuous sometimes costs something — could even hurt your career if you stand on principle.” (Ezra Levant, The Ezra Levant Show, Rebel Media, 11Oct2017)

“Plato had a memorable image for the false beliefs and illusions we too often suffer… we are all like people living in a cave, chained down to the floor, our gazes fixed on shadows flitting across a wall, shadows we mistake for realities… until the day that someone breaks free of his chains… and escapes the cave altogether… At first, he would be blinded by the glare of the sun… But then his eyes would begin to adjust and make out real objects, animals, rocks, and trees… When he brings back into the cave his strange tale of other realities, he will be cheered by some, [but, sadly,] jeered by others. [Because many people] have a way of becoming comfortable with our illusions.” (Morris, 1999)

“The philosophy of relativism claims that all so-called truth is relative… suggesting that this [claim] is the ultimate, absolute truth about truth… [But then] it actually asserts what it denies, and so it’s self-defeating, simply logically incoherent as a philosophical position… [But] a number of otherwise very smart people have found it tempting… [it] can serve as a very persuasive intellectual excuse for very bad behavior. [For] If there is no absolute truth, there is no absolute moral truth, and we can get away with anything we want… it’s a view they can use speciously to attempt to convince otherwise good and sensible people to join them in their shenanigans.” (Morris, 1999)

“Make it thy business to know thyself, which is the most difficult lesson in the world.” (Cervantes, in Morris, 1999)

“Mindfulness techniques are extremely valuable, but equally important is threat reduction… You will also need to change your life so that you feel less threatened…” (Eric Maisel in Why Smart People Hurt)

“He cited an episode of The Simpsons in which Homer has a crayon removed from his brain, becomes smart, then gets depressed by the complexity of the world and asks that the crayon be put back in” (metronews 04 Nov 2014 quoting philosophy professor Mark Kingwell)

“If you put a good brain in a brain-unfriendly environment, it should not surprise you to see that brain get sad (a state that will eventually be labeled ‘chronic depression’)” (Why Smart People Hurt by Eric Maisel)

“Those things—they’re not even desires—they’re things people do to escape from desires—because it’s such a big responsibility, really to want something.” (The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand)

“‘How does one become a butterfly?’ she asked pensively. ‘You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.'” (Trina Paulus)

“psychotherapy has been proven to help people live healthier, happier lives, all without frightening side effects, such as dry mouth, erectile dysfunction, kidney failure, and death” (Scott Miller, PhD)

“there surely are those who are even more pregnant in their souls than in their bodies, and these are pregnant with what is fitting for a soul to bear and bring to birth. And what is fitting? Wisdom and the rest of virtue, which all poets beget, as well as all the craftsmen who are said to be creative.” (Socrates in Plato’s Symposium)

“But the incurability of schizophrenia is a myth that has evolved from its original pronouncement by Emil Kraeplin (1856-1926) a century ago… recovery can occur in almost 70% of cases…” (Peter Raabe, PhD, in Philosophy’s Role in Counselling and Psychotherapy; while I don’t specialize in helping people with symptoms said to constitute schizophrenia, I do operate with an eye to recovery rather than a deterministic and pessimistic assumption of chronicity of symptoms)

“‘Am I happy enough?’ has been a staple of American self-reflection since Thomas Jefferson declared ours the first country on earth dedicated to the pursuit of happiness. ‘Am I not happy enough because I am sick?’ on the other hand is a question that has just arisen in the last twenty years.” (Manufacturing Depression, by Gary Greenberg)

“All things of grace and beauty such that one holds them to one’s heart have a common provenance in pain. Their birth in grief and ashes. So, he whispered to the sleeping boy. I have you.” (Cormac McCarthy, The Road)

“Emotions are tools. Learn to appreciate what is in your emotional toolbox. Learn how to use these tools more effectively and what works best in particular situations.” (Todd Kashdan)

“Gifted adults need to know who they are and cannot escape the pull toward self-actualization, the unyielding pressure to make their lives count” (Mary-Elaine Jacobsen, Psy.D., in the book The Gifted Adult)

“As you can see, in any situation there are many ways to interpret what the events mean. The interpretation you make determines your mood.” (Mind Over Mood, 1995, by Greenberger and Padesky)

“…somehow psychology almost never gets around to the complementary goal of making the lives of well people even better.” (Martin Seligman, in Learned Optimism, 2006, a book about Positive Psychology)

“You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with” (Jim Rohn, Entrepreneur). So choose wisely…

“I’ve looked in the mirror every morning and asked myself, ‘If today were the last day of my life, would I want to do what I am about to do today?’  And whenever the answer has been no for too many days in a row, I know I need to change something.” (Steve Jobs, 2005, Stanford Commencement Address; may he rest in peace)

*Note that these quotes are sourced from a variety of disciplines, and are not psychotherapy / counselling / advice.  For professional services please either contact me to schedule your free initial consultation (if you are in Ontario), and/or contact another qualified local professional. If you need urgent support, consider calling Toronto Distress Centres at 416.408.4357. If you need immediate help, call 911 or go to your local Emergency Room. Note this post is for information only, does not imply that a professional relationship has been established with readers, and does not imply intent to provide professional services to readers. Intended audience: Current adult residents of the Canadian province of Ontario only.

Trudi Jane Wyatt © 2018