Trudi Jane Wyatt, MA, RP, CCC
Psychotherapy for individual male and female adults in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.
416-901-0994 No text; if emergency 911; see ‘Resources’.
130 Adelaide St. W. (weekdays)
1920 Yonge St. (Saturdays)
By appointment only
In addition to a light bulb predecessor, “gaslighting” can refer to a strategy some people use in order to control other people in an often undetected, covert, but insidious manner. The term comes from an old movie (spoiler alert!!) called “Gaslight” in which a husband secretly manipulates the gaslight levels in his home to convince his wife she’s “going crazy” and perhaps should go to a sanitarium…
There are many, many ways to go about gaslighting, and most people cannot recognize them. And thus many good people are highly vulnerable to being emotionally manipulated, like a marionette puppet, at home, politically, socially, in the workplace, religiously, etc. I think another aspect of the vulnerability (there are many aspects…) is that many people (increasingly) have not been taught the important critical thinking skills required to trust their minds enough to persistently and confidently question the words, actions, and even glances of a gaslighter.
For help with developing these skills, identifying gaslighting, responding to gaslighting, recovering from being gaslighted (this can be very difficult), or even with stopping this behaviour if you are used to doing it, please contact me. If desired, I offer free initial phone consultations to see if there might be a fit between your needs and my work; or, you can just set up a first appointment.
Note that this post is not psychotherapy / counselling; please contact me or another professional if you require these services. If you need urgent support, consider Toronto Distress Centres at 416.408.4357. If you need immediate help, call 911 or go to your local Emergency Room. Note this post is for information only, does not imply that a professional relationship has been established with readers, is not advice, is not legal advice (please contact a lawyer or paralegal or the Law Society of Upper Canada Referral Service if you need legal advice), and does not imply intent to provide professional services to readers. Intended audience: Current adult residents of the Canadian province of Ontario only.
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